Planning your wedding is one of the most beautiful adventures of your life. It’s exciting, emotional, and filled with dreams. But after the big day, many couples look back and realise there are a few things they would have done differently.

As a wedding planner in Provence, I often hear the same comments:

“We didn’t enjoy the day enough.”
“We tried to handle everything ourselves.”
“We had way too much food and ended up wasting so much.”

These are completely normal feelings but they can be avoided.
Here are five common wedding regrets and how to make sure your own day is free of them.

1. Not Taking Time to Enjoy the Day

This is, by far, the most common regret among newlyweds.
Many couples spend their entire wedding day checking on suppliers, following the schedule, and solving last-minute problems instead of simply enjoying the moment.

Between welcoming guests, managing timing, and making sure everything runs smoothly, it’s easy to forget to breathe and be present.

How to avoid it:
Hire a wedding coordinator or wedding planner to handle the logistics.
Your planner will take care of the suppliers, the timing, and any last-minute surprises so you can relax and truly live every emotion of the day.

2. Trying to Manage Everything Yourself

Many couples think that planning their own wedding will save money or give them full control.
In reality, it often leads to stress, fatigue, and frustration, especially during the final weeks.

They spend evenings making schedules, chasing suppliers, and end up exhausted before the big day even begins.

How to avoid it:
Delegate.
Hiring a wedding planner doesn’t mean losing control it means gaining peace of mind.
Your planner translates your vision into reality while optimising your budget and saving you valuable time.

3. Ordering Too Much Food (and Wasting It)

This is another classic regret.
Out of fear that guests might not have enough, many couples order too much food for the cocktail, dinner, or dessert, leading to significant waste.

The truth is, between the excitement, conversation, dancing, and drinks, guests usually eat less than expected.

How to avoid it:
Talk to your wedding caterer — professionals know exactly how to balance portions for your guest count.
If you want to create a generous experience, focus on quality and variety, not sheer quantity.

4. Not Spending Enough Time with Guests

The wedding day flies by.
Between photos, speeches, and the schedule, many couples realise afterwards that they barely spoke to their friends and family.

How to avoid it:
Plan moments dedicated to your guests: a longer cocktail reception, a next-day brunch, or a more relaxed dinner schedule.
And once again et your wedding planner handle the details so you can focus on people, not logistics.

5. Not Hiring a Professional Photographer or Videographer

Another common regret is having missed or poor-quality photos.
A friend with a camera can’t replace a professional eye or experience.

How to avoid it:
Invest in a wedding photographer and videographer whose style resonates with you.
These images will become the memories of your life and they’re worth every cent.

Final Thoughts: The Secret Is to Let Go

Your wedding day should be about love, connection, and joy not stress and control.
Perfection doesn’t exist, but happiness does. Surround yourself with trusted professionals, delegate, and live every moment fully.

At Pantaia Events, our mission is simple: to help couples enjoy their wedding day without stress or regrets.
From planning to coordination, we take care of every detail so you can focus on what truly matters celebrating your love.

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